Sunday, November 17, 2019

Half a Century

   The months this year seem to fly by faster than ever. I have found it harder to blog but thought I’d try a short summary today. Halloween has been followed by our anniversary for 50 years. This year we decided to make a fuss by having a family gathering in Barcelona but it was not to be. On October 24 and 26th I spent hours in ER with hubby as he developed a fever and terrible pain and swelling in his scrotum area on the left side. It is somewhat of a serious problem so hubby was attended to fairly quickly with a pain killer injection and placed an IV lead into his arm for further follow up. Soon came an ultra sound. It was suspected he had developed an infection in the left testicle and the ultra sound suggested that may be the cause of his misery so they began with administration  of strong antibiotics and some fluids via the IV. And when all the bags were empty and his fever was down we were sent home with meds and follow up procedures. We were told hubby would not be fit to fly for some time. So Barcelona had to be cancelled. Then on October 26th we were back in ER as hubby was dehydrated from not being able to keep oral meds down. He needed an adjustment in order to improve. Again he got IV meds and was hydrated by IV. He was also xrayed in abdominal area as they felt he was suffering from something pushing on his belly, likely an accumulation of stool matter. Once confirmed a laxative was ordered to be taken at home. We set to go after another IV dose of antibiotic and more hydration. At home hubby took half of a bottle of citromag to get things moving. I also had to feed him gravol along with strong pain med and strong cipro antibiotic. Luckily it all began to work and after two more days his level of comfort was more tolerable. The ER doctor told us this could take anywhere from a month to six months to clear as it was in the prostrate and bladder too. Seems it had been in the works for some time.
   On November first I arranged a tiny gathering of family and friends to be held at our club. They let us use the library for cocktails and a small meeting room for a sit down dinner. We blamed up both rooms with banners and other golden sparkly stuff. I brought three photo albums for people to share and my sister and daughter made up a playlist of music going back 50 years to now that they put on over Bluetooth speakers. 
   Hubby was able to attend with aid of pain killers and he gave a lovely opening at the dinner table before the meal. He was very touched by the event’s elegance and let guests know how our union had changed his entire family life and with years he thanked me for always being there for him. Of course I followed his lead by remarking how my world was enriched thanks to him and his family. It was followed by my SIL who was at our wedding and she added humour by telling hubby he had done well to survive at my side. Her joke did not come lightly for she has been widowed twice. My brother was killed in an accident 41 years ago. She remarried and sadly five years ago her partner died from lung failure. I admired her for remaining in our family life with her second husband. Families can be so special if there is love and respect.
   On November 11th my daughter brought her family to stay six days with us since we would not be together in Spain. Right now the wee grandkids are racing around downstairs as I type. It has been a bitter sweet visit as hubby continues to sleep throughout each day. Today we will have lunch with cousins and this eve they will fly back to UK. And we will continue on striving to help hubby get better again. The specialist appointment is on November 26, the same day as my eye specialist appointment. My vision continue to weaken but my heart is full of hope and love. 
   Take care my friends till I try posting around Christmas time. I hope you are well . I still am only able to comment on some blogs, not all thanks to Google. I do read your posts and share with Buddy.
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11 comments:


  1. Family is a blessing...truly. All the best to you and Buddy, Heidrun, your hubby and all the grandkids running around your house. Many blessings and a very Merry Christmas to you all.

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  2. I am sorry to hear your husband has been so ill, I know how it feels when they get extremely ill and all that entails. it sounds like he is better, that is good and sorry you missed the trip and party to celebrate.. tell Buddy hello from me. I hope you both feel better soon, and I do realize your eyes will not get better, but pray your health will continue to be good to allow you to care for your family

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  3. Wow, you and your husband have really been through the wringer. What an ordeal but I am encouraged that he seems to be better. Enjoy those grands and their visit.
    Do take care and keep us updated now and then.
    Hi to Buddy and hugs from Arkansas.

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  4. You and your husband seem to be facing these major challenges with courage and grace. Prayers for you, hubby, Buddy your other loved ones.

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  5. Dear Heidi, I'm so sorry to hear you have been going through a rough patch with your husband's health issues. But I am so thankful that you can benefit from Canada's health care system and that he has been taken care of several times and is now on the mend. I will pray for his speedy and full recovery. I remember long ago now you mentioned the eye issues but I'm afraid I do not remember what causes the issue. I am assuming it progresses slowly and there is no real treatment. I pray it won't be progressing much more so you can continue to lead a fruitful life. Life is so much better with family in it and I'm glad your family was able to be there to celebrate with you and also to visit with you. Hugs (and greetings to Buddy). xx

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  6. I'm sorry to hear about your husband's health problems (and yours) and I hope he is getting better day by day. I'm sorry that you had to cancel the plans for your anniversary celebration, but I am happy to hear that your daughter was able to visit with you. God bless you and your family during this trying time.

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  7. You went through stressful times with your husband’s illness. I hope he is getting stronger now. I’m sending you all my best wishes for getting good results on both your next medical appointments in late November. Take care my friend.

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  8. I am so sorry about your husband! Have they discovered the true diagnosis yet? What is causing it! Happy anniversary! We celebrate dour 50th last month. Did not go anywhere, but was glad to be together.

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  9. Congratulations on your 50th, Heidi. I hope that your husband is feeling much better! My goodness you two went through a lot! Thanks for visiting my blog. Take care.

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  10. I see that I'm not the only one eager for an update.

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